Saturday, November 27, 2010

Learning to live

A week ago I was sitting in Alotau, Milne Bay province. Now, you have to know that I'm not from there nor have I ever been there before. Getting there meant taking a leap out of my comfort zone and venturing out.

You may laugh at the thought that another part of this island of New Guinea is not venturing out but this Momase product flew to almost the tip of PNG in the opposite direction to home.

I learned that Milne Bay has skilled boat builders, furniture makers and found a renowned PNG artist in a small obscure studio whose artwork reflected his heritage.

Friends took me to see the memorial to the battle of Milne Bay and I imagined that peace filled bay lit up with gunfire. The same friends explained how the matriarchal culture influenced maternal and child health. We laughed as we tried to coax one's toddler son into smiling and smiled as his shrieks filled the air near the bay.

And along the way, I started learning how to truly live this beautiful life.
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Wednesday, October 27, 2010

THEY SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER

Taking a break from musing on the state of things as it's a nice rainy day here and thought I would retell a story I wrote in high school as a social commentary, titled as above:

I have lived in this area for a long time. I raised a family on this street, all of whom have since left in one way or another. I am a tired old women now with grandchildren propped on my knee but my eyes have seen such terrible things that I hope you will never know.
The vacant lot next door stands as a testament to a grim episode in the history of this street. In the 80's, a brand new two - bedroom house stood there, waiting for a family to occupy it. It was also around that time that the first of my five children was preparing to leave for the big wide world. We were so caught up in the excitement that we failed to notice the family that moved next door one sunny day.
I first met Eric, the son, one morning while pruning my hibiscus. He appeared as a pair of curious eyes looking at me inquisitively from behind a nearby rose bush ( in those days, there was no fence). "Hello!" I called out cheerfully in his direction. A small head slowly rose out of the bush. "Morning!" He replied and broke into a grin. Our friendship was instantly sealed.
I watched Eric grow into an intelligent young man, and came to rely on him for company..He was the grandson I hoped to have some day. Every new day brought with it new questions for me to answer and new discoveries to show me. I baby-sat him when his mother worked late shifts as a nurse.
Eric's father was a rising star in the public service who strove for excellence and expected Eric to do so too. When Eric started school, any slip in his grades would earn him a scolding from his mother and, ultimately, a beating from his father. But Eric's intelligence was not the kind that could be written down on a piece of paper. I noticed that he had a gift of being able to make anything grow, even my flowers flourished under his attention. This, however, did not satisfy his parents and Eric became terrified of failure.
At age fourteen, he evolved from a fun loving person to a moody individual, given in to occasional spurts of anger. He spent long hours muttering to my roses and studying late. Still he recieved beatings for his falling grades. I pleaded with his parents but it fell on deaf ears.."What do you know, lapun meri?" was their reply.. Eric suffered on in silence..
It was around this time that the drinking and the drugs started. He stopped visiting my house and began walking the streets with a group of boys every time he fought with his parents. One night, as i poured a glass of water, i heard a screeching noise and voices screaming "Eric!!!!" The glass shattered to pieces on the floor as i ran for the door. A crowd was gathering in the street, a melee of voices crying, screaming, so much confusion. In the midst was Eric's distraught mother, clinging to what was left of him.
No one knows what really happened that night although many say he deliberately stepped in front of the car, fueled by alcohol and marijuana. Others, including his parents maintained that it was just a bad accident. Deep down i knew he had given up on life a long time ago.
Now I sit down with my own grandson and stare at the vacant block, and i hug him close thinking about a wonderful life wasted.. They should have known better.

Saturday, October 2, 2010

The grass is not greener on the other side..

Ever notice how when you talk to old friends, peers that everyone wants to mention the success in their lives first before you dig deeper to find the flaws. Why does human nature dictate that we put up screens to mask the truth because we feel we need to prove our worth?

And why does everyone assume private practice = get rich quick. Seriously, the next person who makes the statement: ' you must be rich' is going to hear me scream. Take a step back and look at what you have first. Wealth should not be defined by your bank statement but by how happy you are...

So consider all things before thinking someone else is luckier, because the grass is not greener on the otherside, its just a different variety.
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Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Good things come to those who wait.

So my important lesson learned today stems from my mother's Pineapples.....

How? I've been waiting forever for the darn things to grow but it's been raining a lot for a while now and Pineapple growing + excessive rain spells zero fruit. I came back home just now and the sun's been out every day. As I was walking around the yard, I noticed pineapples growing.... FINALLY..... It amazes me that creation knows when to be fruitful and multiply or to hang back and wait for the right time to ripen.

The human affliction is such that we constantly jump the queue and rush to meet deadlines. Good things come to those who wait. Don't get me wrong, this is no justification for laziness. I am merely pointing out that there times when it would be beneficial to let the dark clouds pass so when you bloom, the sunlight leads people to that beauty... Olsem, sampla tingting tasol, u yet skelim.
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Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Sorting things out

I've reached a stage where it's time once again to sort out my room into give away, throw away and keep piles. I do this regularly when I feel I am in need of change.
Change aids progress. Granted, there are some regrets along the way such as giving away my storybook collection (my future children would have enjoyed them) but I see my old desk at my cousins and appreciate that its being put to good use.

PNG is also at a stage where we need to weed out politicians we don't need, those that should be in other roles and those that need to stay. We are overdue as a nation for spring cleaning.
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Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Thinking outside the box

I love my current job but looking through papers for job applications in my field, the big thing they all want is
1. Experience
2. Credentials
Having only been in the workforce for the last 4 years, i'm not exactly big on experience. Credentials in my field always means: have you had post graduate training? The process in this country involves service registry (one year or more) before you can apply to do anything so thanks for asking if i'm a specialist but please stop. Graduating from medical school does not automatically mean you can now specialise. It means on average 2 years of service registry and then a four year masters program (if you are successful with your applications and the bosses agree). Hence, when you graduate with a masters degree, you would have had 5 years at medical school, 2 years residency (internship), average 2 - 3 years service registry (once you have found a position to do service registry) and then four years masters. In total, 14 - 15 years after starting uni.

Not that your doing nothing, the whole time you will be working and doing calls at night. Depending on the size of the hospital, in some places you may be oncall 2 nights in a row, alternate nights, etc. Sometimes you may find that you have to turn to private services for employment and then have to treck the long road back to public service as it's the only way to get training in PNG.

When I was in medical school, I had the perfect path planned out (in fact, everyone did)- finish medical school, 2 years residency, 2 years service registry and apply for masters training and be a consultant by my early 30's. Woe to those who stray to private practice, the land of greed, fast cars and a no care attitude. Funny how life, as the americans say, 'throws a curveball at you'. Two years into private practice (after residency) and I can say, its not so bad. I still practice medicine and my blood pressure and stress levels are well controlled plus I still give the same level of care as I did in public service. Granted there are horror stories about private practice and people having to pay large sums of money on the spot before recieving emergency medical attention (this is why it amuses me to see people whinge at paying K2 or roughly 66 US cents for a public accident and emergency fee to be seen).

I wonder if I apply for a public position, whether the selection committee will see my meagre credentials and private practice experience as weighing heavily against being selected for a service registry position, the first step to a specialty. But hey, if you dont jump in and find out, you will never know, so wish me well. In the meantime, I am stopping to smell the roses along the way.

Saturday, May 29, 2010

Wantok system, PNG time and going overboard

Before I begin, you need to know the following things:

1. Wantok system - this is the system in Papua New Guinea that traditionally means you have support from your 'wantoks' (i.e relatives, people from the same area or, if your in a different country - people from your home country) when you need help with something and vice versa. The negative implication of that is what is reffered in western circles as nepotism.

2. PNG Time - this is usually 1 hour after the time appointed. It works well in PNG because everybody is switched on to the same time.

Now, this system has worked quite well for so long because time didn't really matter that much. As long as it got done today (i.e before the sun set) things were okay. Well, now with western influence, we have to change. I don't mean change completely and lose our identity but learn to differentiate between when PNG time and wantok system is okay, and when you are going overboard.

For example, I'm sure you've been in a very long queue growing by the minute and someone has skipped the queue because he knows the person at the counter. Frustrating isn't it. Or someone has to come do some work for you and turns up three hours after they were supposed to. Worse, they turn up and then ask to use your phone/borrow stationary/etc instead of doing their job.

My only statement is that if you've experienced the above, don't do it to others...... The more people who think like that, the better for PNG.

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Social Networking

My email inbox is full to the brim with Google Buzz, Facebook updates, etc. Why? Because I decided to join social networking online and and that's why i have a whole pile of emails that are basically designed to tell me that so and so have 'liked' my status update. OR, joy of joys, someone has tagged me and 10 other people on a funny photo and 500 million people have decided to write a comment beggining with lol, hahaha, etc..

The constant headache of screening my emails has been relieved somewhat by the fact I have cleaned up my friend lists. While undertaking this task, i learnt a few truths:
1. Why am i friends with people I do not know and have never chatted with even after i accepted friend requests from this people?
2. Just because I have 25 friends in common with you, doesnt mean we automatically know each other. But that doesnt mean i dont want to get to know you:)
3. Someone's profile picture is actually a great judge of character. Think about it......
4. I hate it when people write long details in their info section on facebook. Seriously, this not your CV. Let us get to know you and find out for ourselves. It makes life more interesting. Besides, aren't you afraid someone might steal your identity?
5. It's addictive. Seriously, if it gets to the point that you are checking facebook 5- 6 times a day and you get an immense joy out of seeing that you have notifications, you have issues.

Online social networking is here to stay but if your online 24 - 7, you miss out on the real world around you.